Identifying oneself in a particular way, makes one adopt unthinkingly features stereotypically linked to that identity. Those \u2018self-labelling as gay\u2019 \u2013 SLAGs \u2013 or \u2018self labelling as non-gay\u2019 \u2013 SLANGs \u2013 or \u2018self labelling as bi\u2019 \u2013 SLABs \u2013 learn what shapes and features in potential sexual objects are stimulating, unstimulating or off-putting. This can simply be a function of their self-label. It is impossible to work out what is \u2018inherent\u2019 and what is \u2018learnt\u2019 or established through self-fulfilling prophesies. We take our pick between possible contributors to our preferences, without thinking or even noticing: \u2018That\u2019s how I am made\u2019 versus \u2018That\u2019s what I have trained myself to be\u2019. It is always easier and more comforting to opt for the \u2018That\u2019s how I am made\u2019 option.<\/p>\n
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